Operational Defiant Disorder

Yea its O.D.D. to try to label something that’s SIMPLY bad behavior.

Where do you think bad behavior stems from? Is it bad parenting? Is it genetics? Is it our environment?

My personal take? The minute you start trying to label something…it means you’re trying to shift the blame and seek a miracle cure. I will not say that all bad behavior is from bad parenting but O.D.D. must be coz by the time the child is dysfunctional….the parent “had no hand in it”. You were not there when the child was growing lito lito horns….even a plant needs weeding and trimming especially if it’s a twining plant or a tree. You need to mould and trim and model it to what you want.

You need to see the outcome in your minds-eye and start working towards this goal.

Parenting starts from the moment the egg is fertilized. THAT is the time when you start to make decisions. Should I have it? Should I flush it? What should I be eating? How will I prepare? And on and on for 9months. THEN you give birth and perhaps you hadn’t resolved the should I keep it dilemma so you opt to go home with or without the baby. The moment you take that little bundle of joy home – you are now bound in that job market for life. There are no leave days no vacations. You are always on call.

So yes. When your child starts acting out to the point of deserving a label! You did play a hand or perhaps you decided to hand over the play to another party – the nanny the housekeeper the maid…call him/her what you will. if you have ever had a pet you do know that good behavior can be taught!

I refuse to buy into all those labels the “developed” countries put on their children to abdicate from parenting! I refuse to take the common mentality of blaming the school your child attends. If you constantly curb bad behavior you can start to control the outcome of your child’s behavior before the HORMONES kick in and you have a little monster in your hands.

We ALL like to test the limits. We all want to try to get away with murder. Why should your little angel be any different! Try to make your child your friend! Let your child KNOW they can trust you for anything (or they will never come to you with a problem coz you will fly off the handle). Let them know that you got their back! Be a friend not a pal to your child and you just might raise us a new generation of children who are not pumped full of chemicals in the name of “curing” bad behavior.